Let’s Stop Caring About People’s Weight

Let's talk about body positivity and caring about people's weight

I recently came across an article called, “Body Positivity Is Great And All But Not When It’s Ignoring Health Concerns.” Honestly, it ignited me with strong feelings, which doesn’t happen very often. Sure, I have my own opinions, but I don’t feel the need to rub them in people’s faces unless I am pushed to. This issue that has come across not once, not twice, but multiple times has really started to get under my skin. It annoys me so much because it involves people caring about people’s weight and health when they actually don’t at all. That’s nice and all, but you’re not actually concerned, are you? The whole concerned act just seems like a ploy to make another person feel bad (or perhaps worse).

Let’s get one thing out of the way. I’m a girl with a little bit of chub on me and every day I strive to make my days great. Why shouldn’t I? I try to eat healthily and exercise at least 3 times a week but of course, I like to have cheat days too. What people don’t know is that everyone is at different points of their lives and that is completely okay. And if you feel the need to say something like, “well I think body positivity is just fat acceptance and being fat is not okay,” I think you should keep reading this article with an open mind and heart.

When it comes to body positivity, everyone has a right to be happy. People don’t understand that progress is a slow journey. So a person may appear overweight or obese, but they could also be working on their health. My journey started for many reasons but I’m still working towards a better me. You can’t judge this by outward appearance alone.

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Look, you never know what someone is going through or where they are in their health and weight journey. It kills me that whenever there’s mention of body positivity or being happy in your own skin, there are always people who pretend to care about that person’s health and weight. Let’s cut the crap right now.

Since when did anyone think body positivity equaled pro-obesity? People who are overweight know they are overweight and they are either doing something about it, not doing something about it because of their own reasons, or feeling bad about it because there are some really inconsiderate jerks in the world.

Look, you never know what someone is going through or where they are in their health and weight journey.

Just because you’re overweight doesn’t mean you’re unhealthy. Every body is different. When I say that being overweight doesn’t necessarily mean the person is unhealthy, I’m not just talking about medical reasons. This includes those who have normal lab results or people who have progressed a long way but still have progress to go. It’s hard to tell everything about a person just by looking at them.

So, my question is why try to make people feel bad? To me, body positivity is exactly what it sounds like. It sounds like it’s promoting people being positive in the body that they have in this moment, tomorrow, next week, next month, next year, and beyond. No one should be unhappy and down on themselves. Who would want someone to be? Unless your motive is to make overweight individuals feel bad. In that case, you’re a real jerk.


Let’s Stop Caring About People’s Weight. It’s No Body’s Business.

So let’s say someone is overweight, they see the body positivity movement, and they accept that they’re fine just the way they are. Who are we to point fingers and try to discipline over the internet? This person knows about their weight and health. The only opinions that really should matter are the doctors who have seen their lab results. Not random people on social media. Why is someone caring about people’s weight anyway?

Rhianna isn't caring about people's weight
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What are your thoughts about body positivity? Have you encountered people caring about people’s weight when they actually don’t? Let me know down in the comments!

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  1. Seriously I think it boils down to envy. YES, envy of chubby chicks. “How dare THEY get credit for doing nothing at all, when I spend hours in the gym”, is what I imagine they say to themselves. Nice post!

  2. I am with you 100% on this, and agree wholeheartedly. I am a woman that has struggled to lose the excess weight since i had my last baby……….who is now 15 lol. I dont like that I cant wear whatever outfit I want to wear, but I also appreciate that my excess weight is the result of many, many bloody fabulous, laughter filled nights out with friends, and enjoying beautiful food with my family. I do eat very healthy food 80% of the time, but i also kick up my heels and indulge too! Life is for living after all. I would like to shift a stone, but a recent MOT at the doctors showed that I have no issues with my health, so it is because I would like to feel more comfortable in my clothes. I hate the judgement that can occur towards over weight people, its just nasty, but I kknow I treat people with kindness and respect, so Id rather be chubby and kind than skinny and mean! (sorry for the long ramble, its a subject Im passionate about)

    1. I definitely agree! I just don’t understand why anyone would care if someone is healthy or not. Acting concerned as a complete stranger really doesn’t do anything, and no one should be made to feel bad about their body.

  3. Some people are so rude! I try to be nice to everyone and anyone, if I hear someone say something out of the way to someone (especially a female) I will say something to the jerk face then to the one the comment was projected towards. This world is mean enough!

    1. I’m so sorry that happened to you but I’ll have to read it your post! I honestly don’t understand why people are so rude!

  4. Great post! I think that sometimes we even put body positivity into a box like the perfect body is. Like it’s only ok to be confident and accept yourself if you’re this size to that size. When in reality we all have different shapes, issues, concerns, options, and lifestyles and although it can be easy to judge we have to remember as you said, everyone is on their own journey.

    I love how you addressed this issue with such grace and concern.

  5. Absolutely amen! I don’t really understand the need to comment on anyone’s weight journey. Ever. (Fake pseudo concern is the worst!) I struggled with an ED for many, many years and body positivity is only ever a good thing! xx


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