What I Learned Trying To Manage Pain And Heartbreak

How to manage pain and heartbreak

It’s been a rough couple of days this week, which really has led to a lot of pain and heartbreak. If you’ve read what happened Monday, then you know that it was one of the hardest things to do. My first reaction was, “how do I move on?” and then a few days later I asked, “how can I manage pain and heartbreak during this time?” Ultimately, I don’t think there is really no easy answer. We all react differently and that’s fine.

trying to manage pain and heartbreak

One blogger that I have found in recent weeks and totally admire, wrote a piece on being sad. She writes that it is ok to feel sad and we shouldn’t feel bad about it. I have to agree with her because, in this intense sadness that I have experienced, I have found people in my life that are so incredibly supportive. And this goes for the grand scheme of things. I’m talking about those friends that have listened to me complain about that jerk for months. Or those friends that just bother to send a random text to ask how I’m doing. Those friends who make a point to see me because they truly miss me. Those are the kinds of friends that you need when you’re trying to manage pain and heartbreak.

To manage pain and heartbreak in life…

Pain and heartbreak are not just reserved for deaths. When trying to manage pain and heartbreak, the symptoms could come from a failed relationship, a fight with a friend, a happy memory you wish so hard to hold onto. Anything could cause anyone to feel like their heart is splitting apart and that awful feeling of a lump in your throat. Sometimes I think that you just have to cry it out. Cry, cry, cry it out until you don’t feel that feeling anymore. Is this the right way to manage pain and heartbreak? I’m not sure. I’m not an expert in these things but I know that it will pass, it has to.

Related: How I Was Ghosted And Why I Wasn’t Good Enough

When I was ghosted, I felt that same pain and heartbreak. What I did then to manage it was to talk about it and make sense of it. Much like my dog’s death, being ghosted was so sudden. Perhaps it’s unexpectedness that throws us off. But honestly, it is almost like grieving. No, you shouldn’t cry over a boy, but if you do, that’s okay. Everyone tries to manage pain and heartbreak differently. Sometimes it takes a while and sometimes it doesn’t.

As for me, I don’t know if I’ll ever stop missing my dog or shedding a tear when I think about him. Pain and heartbreak is a funny thing. It seems like it can come and go whenever it pleases.

How do you manage pain and heartbreak? Share your tips or tricks on how you move past those heartbreaking moments!

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    1. It’s definitely not easy and you’re right. It absolutely feels like I’m stuck in a permanent anguish. Like time is just passing by and I’m just stuck in the same moment. I think it’ll get better like you said. Time will heal my pain. Thank you so much for your kindness!

  1. So sorry to hear about your dog, it’s heart breaking losing a pet. Loved this post, when I’m feeling down I try not to think of it as a negative and remember I’m only human, I have to go through the bad times to appreciate the good ones (although it is hard sometimes!)! x

  2. I’m so sorry to hear about your dog. I remember losing my dog and it really is like losing a family member, it’s so hard. I’m not sure how I manage pain and heartbreak. Being a mum I’m so used to just putting it on a back burner and plastering a fake smile on myself and pretending that everything is fine. I promise though, everything will get better – it just might take some time x

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