Reasons Why I Hate Online Dating | Risk 23 Series

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Hello everyone! It’s your favorite day of the week, Wednesday! Why is it your favorite day? Because it has been designated as the day that I post new risks as a part of my Risk 23 blog series! So, this week I tackled online dating and I cannot stress enough how much I hate online dating. I gave myself 2 weeks on Bumble (thinking it may be better than Tinder) to find myself a date. Well, let’s see how that went, shall we?

How was your day/week?

My weeks were interesting and frustrating at the same time. I definitely imagined that they would’ve gone completely different than they did.

What did you do?

I went on a dating app called Bumble. With this dating app, the girl has to message first. I liked this because I felt like I could better control the narrative. Now, keep in mind that I was not looking for the love of my life. A few of my friends (and my mom- hey mom!) suggested that I try casual dating. I hate casual dating and I hate online dating apps even more. I was swiftly made aware of how much I loathe them.

So, what happened? Well, let’s start with me! I am super ambitions when it comes to my career and such. On top of this, I also have high standards for myself and for the people I would like to date. The thing is that I wasn’t even looking for a boyfriend with this app. I was just looking for a cute coffee date and mediocre conversation at best. That was not what I ended up with.

To start off, the selection on this app for my general area is a bit meh. However, I felt the same for other dating apps I’ve tried so I think it’s just my general area. I wish I would’ve kept a tally on how many people I swiped on, how many matches I got, and how many people responded. I’ll give some general estimates where I can. Out of maybe 20 to 25 people that I genuinely thought were interesting, only 3 people responded. Now, this could be all down to my profile or even things I can’t change, like my looks. Of course, I’m no Mila Kunis, but I’m definitely not a bad catch by any means.

I don’t really know where I went wrong but no dates came out of this situation. In fact, I was unmatched by a guy after I asked if he’s been to Greece after he told me he was Greek. What?

Did you learn anything new about yourself?

Yes. I learned that I hate online dating with a passion and it’s probably best if I leave it alone. I also learned that my self-esteem isn’t as bad as I thought it was. Sure, I was a little taken back when people wouldn’t respond to my messages or worst unmatch me. Overall, I learned that I’ve got a pretty tough skin for these things.

How did you feel about this risk before?

I’ve done online dating before but it was as a joke. Honestly, a friend and I would have a girls night, have some wine, watch Bachelor, and just look at the guys on Tinder for fun. So, online dating was nothing new. However, after my whole ghosting experience, I swore them off forever. I definitely hated them after that!

How do you feel about this risk now?

I feel even more frustrated than before. Additionally, I will never understand the whole ego boost thing and I will never understand the people on these apps. I know there are people who have found great guys on dating apps, but all I’ve found was frogs and toads but no princes.

Why did you pick this risk?

I picked this risk because the core issue is that I hate dating. I’m always so worried about sounding boring or stupid. It’s been a while since I’ve dated so I figured that online dating would give me a little ease back into the pool. It’s also October/November so why not?

Additionally, one of my biggest fears is not being attractive enough to get a date. After picking this risk, I think I hate online dating even more.

Would you take this risk again?

Would I go on dating apps again? Actually, maybe. I think I have some things to work on and maybe I was too picky, but I’m unsure if I would do it again. I literally felt my brain cells deteriorate using this thing.

Additional comments?

My biggest takeaway from this experience is that you win some and you lose some. I think online dating works for a lot of people, but it did not work for me. I say that if you’re afraid of online dating, first take it with a grain of salt. Most of the time, you are not going to find your Prince Charming on there and that’s okay. However, I know people who have had great success with them! So, I say take a risk. I did and one of my worst fears happened, but it’s ok because at the end of the day, I know I’m still a cool person.

Online dating? Check!

Question of the day: Do you hate online dating too? Would you ever do it?

I hope you enjoyed this second risk as a part of my Risk 23 blog series! Make sure to come back next Wednesday! Hint: my next risk is a bit scandalous…

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  1. I tried online dating many times and I hate it! Everybody is so confident and brave in the safety of their computer screens. 90% of the time people’s behaviour is so disappointing in real life.
    I really enjoyed this post.

  2. I’ve never tried online dating and I’m not sure if I ever will! I’m bad enough at responding to my friends messages never mind those from strangers!
    Tara x

  3. It’s really hit or miss. I have a long term boyfriend from online dating and my friend married a man she met online. Honestly, it’s not that easy but sticking with it for months or years and going on two or three dozen dates is the only way. Most people don’t have that kind of patients so I get it. I noticed all my friends who quit don’t find anyone and all my friends who stick with it eventually find someone. Not blaming you, it sucks and I hate it too. I hate it and I was successful. Everyone hates it. Anyone who is interested online dating should just try to have fun meeting interesting people and know as with anything it’ll take work and work to find what you are looking for. There is no magical answer to love unfortunately. Having a friend to vent about the crazieness online and crazy dates definitely helps. I have no doubt you would have had a few cool dates if you stuck with it for a few months. Sorry!

    1. Hi Teri! I’ve tried online dating so many times before this article, and I just don’t think it’s something for me. I’m definitely old-fashioned in that aspect of my life. I have had friends who have met their boyfriends through online dating, so I know it works for some people and I completely understand where you’re coming from. However, I am definitely a believer in fate and not forcing anything. So, for now, I want to enjoy the single life and work on myself and the things I want in life. Thank you so much for reading!

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