Hello everyone! It’s your favorite day of the week, Wednesday! Why is it your favorite day? Because it has been designated as the day that I post new risks as a part of my Risk 23 blog series! So, this week I tackled online dating and I cannot stress enough how much I hate online dating. I gave myself 2 weeks on Bumble (thinking it may be better than Tinder) to find myself a date. Well, let’s see how that went, shall we?
How was your day/week?
My weeks were interesting and frustrating at the same time. I definitely imagined that they would’ve gone completely different than they did.
What did you do?
I went on a dating app called Bumble. With this dating app, the girl has to message first. I liked this because I felt like I could better control the narrative. Now, keep in mind that I was not looking for the love of my life. A few of my friends (and my mom- hey mom!) suggested that I try casual dating. I hate casual dating and I hate online dating apps even more. I was swiftly made aware of how much I loathe them.
So, what happened? Well, let’s start with me! I am super ambitions when it comes to my career and such. On top of this, I also have high standards for myself and for the people I would like to date. The thing is that I wasn’t even looking for a boyfriend with this app. I was just looking for a cute coffee date and mediocre conversation at best. That was not what I ended up with.
To start off, the selection on this app for my general area is a bit meh. However, I felt the same for other dating apps I’ve tried so I think it’s just my general area. I wish I would’ve kept a tally on how many people I swiped on, how many matches I got, and how many people responded. I’ll give some general estimates where I can. Out of maybe 20 to 25 people that I genuinely thought were interesting, only 3 people responded. Now, this could be all down to my profile or even things I can’t change, like my looks. Of course, I’m no Mila Kunis, but I’m definitely not a bad catch by any means.
I don’t really know where I went wrong but no dates came out of this situation. In fact, I was unmatched by a guy after I asked if he’s been to Greece after he told me he was Greek. What?
Did you learn anything new about yourself?
Yes. I learned that I hate online dating with a passion and it’s probably best if I leave it alone. I also learned that my self-esteem isn’t as bad as I thought it was. Sure, I was a little taken back when people wouldn’t respond to my messages or worst unmatch me. Overall, I learned that I’ve got a pretty tough skin for these things.
How did you feel about this risk before?
I’ve done online dating before but it was as a joke. Honestly, a friend and I would have a girls night, have some wine, watch Bachelor, and just look at the guys on Tinder for fun. So, online dating was nothing new. However, after my whole ghosting experience, I swore them off forever. I definitely hated them after that!
How do you feel about this risk now?
I feel even more frustrated than before. Additionally, I will never understand the whole ego boost thing and I will never understand the people on these apps. I know there are people who have found great guys on dating apps, but all I’ve found was frogs and toads but no princes.
Why did you pick this risk?
I picked this risk because the core issue is that I hate dating. I’m always so worried about sounding boring or stupid. It’s been a while since I’ve dated so I figured that online dating would give me a little ease back into the pool. It’s also October/November so why not?
Additionally, one of my biggest fears is not being attractive enough to get a date. After picking this risk, I think I hate online dating even more.
Would you take this risk again?
Would I go on dating apps again? Actually, maybe. I think I have some things to work on and maybe I was too picky, but I’m unsure if I would do it again. I literally felt my brain cells deteriorate using this thing.
My biggest takeaway from this experience is that you win some and you lose some. I think online dating works for a lot of people, but it did not work for me. I say that if you’re afraid of online dating, first take it with a grain of salt. Most of the time, you are not going to find your Prince Charming on there and that’s okay. However, I know people who have had great success with them! So, I say take a risk. I did and one of my worst fears happened, but it’s ok because at the end of the day, I know I’m still a cool person.
Online dating? Check!
Question of the day: Do you hate online dating too? Would you ever do it?
I hope you enjoyed this second risk as a part of my Risk 23 blog series! Make sure to come back next Wednesday! Hint: my next risk is a bit scandalous…