I want to get straight to the point. I’m not interested in having a relationship and I’ve been struggling with whether I’m okay with that. I struggle with the pressures around me, which makes me feel like we’re coming full circle since my “Being The Single Friend” post.
In my post about being the single friend, I talked about being the only person in my friend group that’s not in a relationship. I have to admit that it can be a bit hard and although I don’t want a relationship at all, I still feel the pressure. In all honesty, I think the pressure is the worst part. I’ve noticed that so many of my friends are either in relationships or they want to be. So, they’re on dating apps and/or they’re experiencing cuffing season. It can be pretty easy to feel like an outcast compared to your friends, which is why I’ve struggled with this whole internal conflict.
I personally feel like I’m not ready for a relationship. I like being selfish right now because I can focus on my dreams and the things that I want for myself. Even though, I know some people will argue that you can have both, I just don’t think that’s possible, at least not for me. From my experience, relationships cloud your judgment when you’re in transitionary periods, which is where I am. I think they tend to hold people back from their full potential. However, you can argue this for having a social life.
Whenever I feel a wave of inadequacy that feels like a punch to the face, I have to stop and remind myself of what it is that I really want.
When I think back to my life as an undergrad, I think of how much more productive I could’ve been if I had given up my social life, if I had stopped caring what other people were doing. I now find myself making so many sacrifices in those aspects. I’m far more focused and driven than I’ve ever been, even though I was driven before. I get so much more done now without the unnecessary baggage. However, when confronted with the reality that everyone around me is or wants to be in a relationship makes me feel a bit lost.
So, I’ve come to a conclusion. Whenever I feel a wave of inadequacy that feels like a punch to the face, I have to stop and remind myself of what it is that I really want. It is that I don’t want a relationship and that’s okay.
As a bit of advice, I want to tell you that if you feel like me, just know that you’re not a weirdo for not being interested in having a relationship. So many people get caught up in the feeling of being with someone that they don’t see that we have so much time to be in a relationship. I have a lifetime but I won’t be this young again.
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